How to Stop Absorbing Everyone Else’s Energy
Written by Derek Wolf for Learn to Be Intuitive at L2Bintuitive.com
If you’ve ever walked into a room and instantly felt heavy, anxious, off, or completely drained
You’re not crazy.
And no, you didn’t make it up.
You probably picked up someone else’s energy.
It’s one of the most common experiences for people who are waking up to their intuition.
You start to realize you’ve been carrying other people’s emotions—their anxiety, anger, grief, even their silence—without meaning to.
And if you don’t know how to handle it, you’ll think something’s wrong with you.
Like you’re too sensitive.
Or you need to “toughen up.”
But the truth is…
Feeling what others feel isn’t a weakness.
Absorbing it without boundaries is.
Here’s what no one teaches us:
There’s a difference between sensing energy and holding it.
You can notice what’s in the room.
You can feel the discomfort.
You can sense someone’s sadness.
That’s your intuition working.
But you don’t have to carry it home.
You don’t have to turn yourself into a sponge.
In fact, the more intuitive you become, the more important it is to set energetic boundaries.
Not to become closed off—
but to stay clear inside your own body.
Here’s how to start:
1. Ask the question: “Is this mine?”
Seriously—pause when you feel that heaviness.
When your mood suddenly shifts.
When anxiety shows up out of nowhere.
Ask: “Is this mine?”
Often, you’ll feel an immediate shift.
Because your body knows the answer—you're just not used to asking.
2. Don’t take responsibility for what someone else won’t name.
If someone is silently angry, shut down, or in a bad place emotionally—
That doesn’t mean you need to fix it.
Let them have their experience.
You’re not rude for not absorbing their discomfort.
You’re allowed to notice it without owning it.
3. Visualize your boundary—before you need it.
It doesn’t have to be mystical or dramatic.
Just take a moment before a conversation, a family gathering, or a tense environment to check in with your body.
Feel your space.
Feel your center.
Decide what stays, and what doesn’t.
Intuition doesn’t mean wide open 24/7.
It means tuned in—with awareness and sovereignty.
4. Let go of the belief that compassion = merging.
You can care without collapsing.
You can love without leaking.
You can feel deeply without becoming the emotional trash bin for everyone around you.
This is one of the most powerful shifts an intuitive person can make.
You’re not meant to carry what isn’t yours.
You’re meant to learn from it, sense it, and stay centered in your own truth.
So the next time you feel that wave of energy hit you
Stop.
Breathe.
Ask:
Is this mine?
Or am I just feeling what they won’t say out loud?
And if it’s not yours—let it go.
You don’t have to heal it.
You don’t have to process it.
You just have to release it.
That’s not cold.
That’s clarity.
And clarity is how your intuition sharpens.
So stop apologizing for protecting your space.
Start honoring your center.
You weren’t built to carry everyone.
You were built to know what’s real
and to walk clearly inside your own life.
Make this a simple ritual:
6. Build an energetic “room” inside you.
Close your eyes for 30 seconds and picture a calm room behind your sternum: clear air, open windows, sunlight. That inner room is where you listen. Visitors (emotions, stories, energies) can knock, but only the ones you invite may enter. You are the door.
7. Use consent-based empathy.
Ask before diving in: “Do you want me to just listen, or would feedback help?” When people choose, the energetic load drops. You’re not guessing, rescuing, or overreaching—you’re responding to consent.
8. Try the Three Gates before you speak.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary right now?
If a share doesn’t pass the gates, let silence hold the space. Fewer words = less entanglement.
9. Scripts that keep you clear (copy/paste).
10. The 3–3–30 reset.
When you feel saturated:
3 breaths (inhale 4, exhale 6).
3 labels (name three present-moment facts: “chair, window, cool air”).
30 seconds of shaking out wrists, shoulders, jaw.
Most energetic “stickiness” is simply unspent stress in the body. Move it.
11. Distinguish resonance from responsibility.
If someone’s story resonates with your history, you may feel it more intensely. That’s resonance, not responsibility. You can note the echo without signing up to carry the weight.
12. Create an “emotional first-aid kit.”
Keep three things handy that reliably bring you back to yourself—mint gum, a favorite song, a short prayer or affirmation, a photo of a place you love. Use them before you crash.
13. Boundaries for specific spaces.
14. When empathy meets manipulation.
If someone repeatedly uses crisis to control access to your time or attention, you’re not obligated to play along. Patterns tell the truth. You can say, “I’m available during X hours,” and keep it. Love without leaky edges.
15. Aftercare: close the loop.
Post-conversation, ask: “Am I carrying anything?” If yes, try one of these:
16. A 7-day boundary experiment.
17. Myths to retire.
18. If you work in helping professions.
Schedule decompression time the way you schedule clients. Even five minutes between sessions to breathe, shake, and sip water protects your clarity. Supervision and therapy are also boundary tools; they keep your system from becoming the archive for everyone else’s pain.
19. If the weight won’t lift.
Sometimes what feels like “absorbing energy” is grief, anxiety, or trauma asking for care. If your load feels chronic and heavy, or you’re struggling to function, reach out to a qualified professional. Getting help is a boundary for your nervous system.
What to remember
You can sense the weather without becoming the sky.
You can witness the wave without drowning in the ocean.
Your intuition grows sharper when your edges are clear.
Protect your space. Honor your center. Let love flow through you—not into you and stuck there.
Keep going.
Derek
Derek Wolf © 2025 Derek Wolf. All rights reserved.
Originally published on L2Bintuitive.com
Written by Derek Wolf for Learn to Be Intuitive at L2Bintuitive.com
If you’ve ever walked into a room and instantly felt heavy, anxious, off, or completely drained
You’re not crazy.
And no, you didn’t make it up.
You probably picked up someone else’s energy.
It’s one of the most common experiences for people who are waking up to their intuition.
You start to realize you’ve been carrying other people’s emotions—their anxiety, anger, grief, even their silence—without meaning to.
And if you don’t know how to handle it, you’ll think something’s wrong with you.
Like you’re too sensitive.
Or you need to “toughen up.”
But the truth is…
Feeling what others feel isn’t a weakness.
Absorbing it without boundaries is.
Here’s what no one teaches us:
There’s a difference between sensing energy and holding it.
You can notice what’s in the room.
You can feel the discomfort.
You can sense someone’s sadness.
That’s your intuition working.
But you don’t have to carry it home.
You don’t have to turn yourself into a sponge.
In fact, the more intuitive you become, the more important it is to set energetic boundaries.
Not to become closed off—
but to stay clear inside your own body.
Here’s how to start:
1. Ask the question: “Is this mine?”
Seriously—pause when you feel that heaviness.
When your mood suddenly shifts.
When anxiety shows up out of nowhere.
Ask: “Is this mine?”
Often, you’ll feel an immediate shift.
Because your body knows the answer—you're just not used to asking.
2. Don’t take responsibility for what someone else won’t name.
If someone is silently angry, shut down, or in a bad place emotionally—
That doesn’t mean you need to fix it.
Let them have their experience.
You’re not rude for not absorbing their discomfort.
You’re allowed to notice it without owning it.
3. Visualize your boundary—before you need it.
It doesn’t have to be mystical or dramatic.
Just take a moment before a conversation, a family gathering, or a tense environment to check in with your body.
Feel your space.
Feel your center.
Decide what stays, and what doesn’t.
Intuition doesn’t mean wide open 24/7.
It means tuned in—with awareness and sovereignty.
4. Let go of the belief that compassion = merging.
You can care without collapsing.
You can love without leaking.
You can feel deeply without becoming the emotional trash bin for everyone around you.
This is one of the most powerful shifts an intuitive person can make.
You’re not meant to carry what isn’t yours.
You’re meant to learn from it, sense it, and stay centered in your own truth.
So the next time you feel that wave of energy hit you
Stop.
Breathe.
Ask:
Is this mine?
Or am I just feeling what they won’t say out loud?
And if it’s not yours—let it go.
You don’t have to heal it.
You don’t have to process it.
You just have to release it.
That’s not cold.
That’s clarity.
And clarity is how your intuition sharpens.
So stop apologizing for protecting your space.
Start honoring your center.
You weren’t built to carry everyone.
You were built to know what’s real
and to walk clearly inside your own life.
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5. Ground before you enter, clear when you exit.Make this a simple ritual:
- Before the meeting, store, or gathering: place both feet on the floor, inhale for 4, exhale for 6 three times. Think “I am in my body.”
- After you leave: brush your hands down your arms and torso as if dusting off sand. Think “What’s not mine returns with love.” Then drink water.
6. Build an energetic “room” inside you.
Close your eyes for 30 seconds and picture a calm room behind your sternum: clear air, open windows, sunlight. That inner room is where you listen. Visitors (emotions, stories, energies) can knock, but only the ones you invite may enter. You are the door.
7. Use consent-based empathy.
Ask before diving in: “Do you want me to just listen, or would feedback help?” When people choose, the energetic load drops. You’re not guessing, rescuing, or overreaching—you’re responding to consent.
8. Try the Three Gates before you speak.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary right now?
If a share doesn’t pass the gates, let silence hold the space. Fewer words = less entanglement.
9. Scripts that keep you clear (copy/paste).
- “I care about you, and I don’t have the capacity to process this deeply today.”
- “I can listen for ten minutes; after that I’ll need to step back.”
- “I’m noticing I feel heavy—going to take a short walk and reset.”
- “I trust you to find your next step. I’m cheering for you.”
10. The 3–3–30 reset.
When you feel saturated:
3 breaths (inhale 4, exhale 6).
3 labels (name three present-moment facts: “chair, window, cool air”).
30 seconds of shaking out wrists, shoulders, jaw.
Most energetic “stickiness” is simply unspent stress in the body. Move it.
11. Distinguish resonance from responsibility.
If someone’s story resonates with your history, you may feel it more intensely. That’s resonance, not responsibility. You can note the echo without signing up to carry the weight.
12. Create an “emotional first-aid kit.”
Keep three things handy that reliably bring you back to yourself—mint gum, a favorite song, a short prayer or affirmation, a photo of a place you love. Use them before you crash.
13. Boundaries for specific spaces.
- Work/Zoom: Turn off self-view, soften your gaze, and place your hand on your desk for a few breaths between calls.
- Family gatherings: Decide ahead of time what topics you will not discuss. Prepare one redirect: “Let’s save that for another time—how’s your garden doing?”
- Public transit/crowds: Keep awareness on the soles of your feet. Imagine your breath dropping to your hips. This pulls energy out of the swirl and back into your body.
14. When empathy meets manipulation.
If someone repeatedly uses crisis to control access to your time or attention, you’re not obligated to play along. Patterns tell the truth. You can say, “I’m available during X hours,” and keep it. Love without leaky edges.
15. Aftercare: close the loop.
Post-conversation, ask: “Am I carrying anything?” If yes, try one of these:
- Write the person’s name on scrap paper and put it in a small bowl or jar labeled “Held with Love.” Your psyche relaxes when it knows the care continues somewhere that is not your body.
- Stand in the shower and imagine the water rinsing off what’s not yours. Thank the water.
- Place a hand on your heart: “I return what isn’t mine. I keep what is true.” Exhale slowly.
16. A 7-day boundary experiment.
- Day 1: Ask “Is this mine?” three times. Note what changes.
- Day 2: Set one time boundary. Keep it kindly.
- Day 3: Practice the 3–3–30 reset twice.
- Day 4: Visualize your inner room for one minute before a call.
- Day 5: Use a consent question: “Listen or help think it through?”
- Day 6: Do aftercare. Choose one closing ritual.
- Day 7: Journal: Where did I stay clear? Where did I merge? What helped most?
17. Myths to retire.
- Myth: “If I don’t absorb, I’m selfish.”
Truth: Clarity makes your care cleaner and more effective. - Myth: “Strong people aren’t affected by others.”
Truth: Sensitivity is data. Strength is knowing what to do with it. - Myth: “If I set boundaries, I’ll lose people.”
Truth: You might lose patterns. You’ll gain healthier connection.
18. If you work in helping professions.
Schedule decompression time the way you schedule clients. Even five minutes between sessions to breathe, shake, and sip water protects your clarity. Supervision and therapy are also boundary tools; they keep your system from becoming the archive for everyone else’s pain.
19. If the weight won’t lift.
Sometimes what feels like “absorbing energy” is grief, anxiety, or trauma asking for care. If your load feels chronic and heavy, or you’re struggling to function, reach out to a qualified professional. Getting help is a boundary for your nervous system.
What to remember
You can sense the weather without becoming the sky.
You can witness the wave without drowning in the ocean.
Your intuition grows sharper when your edges are clear.
Protect your space. Honor your center. Let love flow through you—not into you and stuck there.
Keep going.
Derek
Derek Wolf © 2025 Derek Wolf. All rights reserved.
Originally published on L2Bintuitive.com
