How to Start Trusting Yourself Again
How to Start Trusting Yourself Again — by Derek Wolf
There’s a kind of ache that comes from not trusting yourself.
Not because someone else doubted you
but because you did.
You felt something.
You knew something.
And you talked yourself out of it.
That moment sticks.
Especially when it turns out you were right.
This is one of the most common patterns I see
People come into intuitive work not to learn how to feel more…
but to learn how to trust what they’ve always felt.
Because the truth is, most of us already knew.
We knew when the relationship wasn’t right.
We knew when the offer felt off.
We knew when we were dimming ourselves just to keep the peace.
But we overrode that knowing to be polite.
To be practical.
To not disappoint someone else.
And then we blamed ourselves for what happened after.
So here’s the first thing I want you to know:
You’re not broken for overriding your intuition.
You were trained to.
You were taught to doubt yourself.
Taught to defer.
Taught to follow logic, not instinct.
And now you’re here, wondering how to repair something that was never lost—only abandoned.
Let’s start there.
Step 1: Admit where you stopped listening.
Not to beat yourself up—but to be honest.
Say it out loud if you need to:
“I knew… and I ignored it.”
That’s the doorway.
Step 2: Don’t over-correct.
Don’t force yourself to “be intuitive” overnight.
Don’t expect yourself to trust every feeling perfectly on day one.
Start small.
Notice when your body says yes.
Notice when it says no.
Notice when something feels clean, open, grounded—and when it doesn’t.
And instead of trying to analyze it, just observe it.
Step 3: Keep your promises to yourself.
Nothing rebuilds trust faster than consistency.
If you say you’ll rest—rest.
If you say you’ll leave—leave.
If you say you’ll speak up—speak.
Your intuition watches how you treat yourself.
So show it that you’re safe now.
That you’re listening.
That you’ll act when it matters.
And when you do miss something, because you will—
Don’t spiral.
Don’t make it mean you’re “not intuitive.”
Just breathe, reset, and recommit.
That’s trust.
Not perfection—re-connection.
So if you’ve lost trust in yourself…
if you’ve been second-guessing everything…
if you’ve been afraid to listen to your gut because of what happened last time
I want you to know this:
You can come home to yourself.
You can rebuild that trust.
And it can start today.
Not with a big breakthrough.
But with a small, quiet yes.
So let today be the day you stop ghosting your own voice.
Let today be the day you begin again
clear, soft, and steady.
You don’t have to be confident to trust yourself.
You just have to be honest.
And willing.
Let that be enough for now.
Derek
Derek Wolf © 2025 Derek Wolf. All rights reserved. Originally published on L2Bintuitive.com
How to Start Trusting Yourself Again — by Derek Wolf
There’s a kind of ache that comes from not trusting yourself.
Not because someone else doubted you
but because you did.
You felt something.
You knew something.
And you talked yourself out of it.
That moment sticks.
Especially when it turns out you were right.
This is one of the most common patterns I see
People come into intuitive work not to learn how to feel more…
but to learn how to trust what they’ve always felt.
Because the truth is, most of us already knew.
We knew when the relationship wasn’t right.
We knew when the offer felt off.
We knew when we were dimming ourselves just to keep the peace.
But we overrode that knowing to be polite.
To be practical.
To not disappoint someone else.
And then we blamed ourselves for what happened after.
So here’s the first thing I want you to know:
You’re not broken for overriding your intuition.
You were trained to.
You were taught to doubt yourself.
Taught to defer.
Taught to follow logic, not instinct.
And now you’re here, wondering how to repair something that was never lost—only abandoned.
Let’s start there.
Step 1: Admit where you stopped listening.
Not to beat yourself up—but to be honest.
Say it out loud if you need to:
“I knew… and I ignored it.”
That’s the doorway.
Step 2: Don’t over-correct.
Don’t force yourself to “be intuitive” overnight.
Don’t expect yourself to trust every feeling perfectly on day one.
Start small.
Notice when your body says yes.
Notice when it says no.
Notice when something feels clean, open, grounded—and when it doesn’t.
And instead of trying to analyze it, just observe it.
Step 3: Keep your promises to yourself.
Nothing rebuilds trust faster than consistency.
If you say you’ll rest—rest.
If you say you’ll leave—leave.
If you say you’ll speak up—speak.
Your intuition watches how you treat yourself.
So show it that you’re safe now.
That you’re listening.
That you’ll act when it matters.
And when you do miss something, because you will—
Don’t spiral.
Don’t make it mean you’re “not intuitive.”
Just breathe, reset, and recommit.
That’s trust.
Not perfection—re-connection.
So if you’ve lost trust in yourself…
if you’ve been second-guessing everything…
if you’ve been afraid to listen to your gut because of what happened last time
I want you to know this:
You can come home to yourself.
You can rebuild that trust.
And it can start today.
Not with a big breakthrough.
But with a small, quiet yes.
So let today be the day you stop ghosting your own voice.
Let today be the day you begin again
clear, soft, and steady.
You don’t have to be confident to trust yourself.
You just have to be honest.
And willing.
Let that be enough for now.
Derek
Derek Wolf © 2025 Derek Wolf. All rights reserved. Originally published on L2Bintuitive.com